Even Ozzie and Harriett if not the Cleavers, got bored with each other as the years passed. Of course we still love our signicant other but we are fed up with the day to day routine. Don't just rekindle the flame, or fan the flames, douse it with deisel fuel and make it burn bright! Valentine's Day as a way to show our love, a reason to try something different, and then make it a habit, a new way of life to change the parameters and depth of the relationship. I know from many interviews with couples that these ideas work and are a blast to do.
Make sure you touch each other. Whether it is going dancing or giving each other a "private gift certificate" for a mutual massage that night. Don't just write the certificates, do it. Or really go dancing, slow dancing, or both. Hold hands and walk down the sidewalk. A public show of affection, even a minor one, can help reconfirm what you both have known all along. You may, at times, get on each others nerve, but the love is still there.
Make dinner a celebration. Conjure the most exotic dish you can make. If you are not a born-cook, find a recipe and go by it. The spicier the better. Why not some tandoori chicken or French meal in a wonderful creme sauce. If you don't cook much, find a cookbook or download a recipe from the net, for for this romantic occasion. It is worth it. Don't tell your partner or spouse that you are planning it, only that you are going to cook because it is Valentine's day. They may be expecting a t-bone steak but this time try an exotic spicy ethnic dish, perhaps some wine, and candlelight with soft music in the background. If you feel uncomfortable in the kitchen, make a formal invitation to dress up and go out to an elegant little French bistro or Italian restaurant. Just make it fun and different than the regular routine meal. Watch her (or him) smile in amazement. Send a surprise gourmet lunch to your loved one's workplace. Order it over the phone, pay by credit card and send it from "A secret admirer". When your mate reveals the surprise, just smile and say, "I love you, honey." (or whatever term of endearment you use or used to use).
Sexy underwear is a must for both. If you are a woman, perhaps a thong rather than your every day panties, and perhaps a nice negligee over it (or no negligee at all, only the thong which will be revealed later). If you are a male, have on sexy boxers or bikini shorts. If you love humor and to laugh but don't do so very often anymore, wear something both sexy and humorous under your work clothes. Don't show this until after your dinner hopefully, with dim lighting and soft music in the background. Make it a show. There are several online stores that carry funny sexy underwear. One is A Thong In My Heart, Victoria's Secret has some, and others. Watch how fast this can bring back those old almost-forgotten passionate feelings. Try not to get too nervous. If you do, it doesn't even matter. Tonight is a night of fun and trying new things. Well, actually old things that you may have gotten out of the habit of doing.
If you put forth just a little initiative, it can go a long way in not just rekindling a stale romance, but creating a whole new way of romance and showing that kind of love, can change habits, behavior and the way you feel about each other, very much to the way it was in the beginning.
About the Author
Rick London is a cartoonist, writer, and entrepreneur and founded the largest independent cartoon site on the Internet Londons Times Cartoons. He also owns the popular sexy/fun undergarment shop, A Thong In My Heart Fuel The Fire On Valentine's Day At A Thong In My Heart